New Year’s Resolutions or Not-So-New Excuses?

It’s that time of year when we look ahead, reprioritize our lives, and make our New Year’s Resolutions. According to, if you are planning a New Year’s Resolution, you are either looking to eat better, exercise more, or save money.

Me? I’m saving up for a few important events (a.k.a. expensive parties) coming up in my family this year. My 2nd grader (Number 6) is making his First Communion, along with his cousin. Number 2 will be graduating from high school, and Number 3 will be celebrating her Sweet 16.

Identify Your New Year’s Resolutions (a.k.a. Goals)

  • What would you like to make a top priority in your life?
  • What has stopped you from achieving this goal in the past?
  • What steps can you make to set yourself up for success?

Maybe I like to do things the hard way, but first I look at my goals, and then reverse engineer how to get there. For example, I break down everything I need to make that last step of my goal, and then I break down everything that I needed to accomplish in that break down.

OK, that doesn’t make sense… More Specific Example:

My Resolution to beef up our savings. I like cake. Sorry.

In order to save money, we’ll have to tighten our belt and stop eating out so often. To do that, we’ll have to plan our meals and buy groceries according to our plan. That means giving myself time to sit down once a week and make a meal-plan. The bottom line is that I have to commit to planning AND cooking in order to save money.  Notice that “Commit to Goal” is the first and largest step in this process.

If your resolution is to lose 25 lbs., your goal might look like the one listed above, but with additions. You will have to plan healthy meals and cut down on eating out. You will have to plan a workout routine. Of course you have to find time to research meals and routines, and the other logistics (time to work out, appropriate clothing and gear, etc. ).

Find Your Mental Toughness (through choosing to suck)

Chances are, the number one reason we not have achieved our past New Year’s Resolutions is because “It’s hard”.  Yeah- it’s tough, but mental toughness is about overriding the mental state that tells you to stop & conserve your energy or to be comfortable.  You’ve heard that it’s all about your attitude; all you have to do is change your mindset… that stuff is true.  ‘Course, it’s easier said than done.

Nobody wants to do stuff that sucks:  Going to the gym sucks.  Skipping dessert sucks.  Getting out of your comfort zone sucks.  David Goggins, Veteran Navy SEAL,  says to do it anyway: Do Something That Sucks Everyday.  There is a powerful freedom that comes from forcing yourself to do something that sucks; you learn that you can do it, benefit from it, and you’re not afraid to do it again.  Being unafraid of doing something that sucks puts you on the road to personal greatness.  Have you watched one of Goggins’ videos? Come on, you can be motivated by this guy for a few minutes:

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New Year’s Resolutions will only last if you get rid of your Not-so-New Excuses.

Anticipate your pitfalls and think about what you can do to counter them… before they trip you up.  For me, that means starting to cook earlier in the day; even meal-prepping in the morning.  This way, I don’t let the “I’m too tired to cook” or “I’m too busy to cook” excuses take hold.

If you’re not eating out in order to control your healthy options, take some time to research what you CAN eat if you do eat out. Many fast food restaurants have great salads and other healthier options.  Committing to only ordering a healthy option helps you avoid the 2,000-calorie-meal pitfall.

Set Yourself up for Success

Some people find that visualizing their goals helps them stay on track. If you are one of these people, then sketch out your goals and post them in a place that will remind you, maybe even motivate you, to take action. Some people suggest having an actual picture of your end goal posted, as this can help you visualize yourself achieving said goal.

Remember that Special K commercial where the woman hangs up bikini on her door and looks at it as she walks by each day eating a bowl of cereal instead of a real meal?

Whatever your New Year’s Resolutions are, talk about it with your family; plan your baby steps extensively. Get the support of your friends and family, and even listen to some of their suggestions. Try to get as many people on board with you as possible, but know that you are ultimately responsible for working and achieving your goals.

You Got This.

Are you still working on a New Year’s Resolution and need some ideas? Read “Fuck the Gym” by one of my favorite bloggers, Damn Girl.

I pray you take hold of your inner resolve, and decide daily to be a better version of you through your New Year’s Resolutions.  Happy New Year!!

What are you Resolving to do (or not do) this year? Share your Badassery in the Comments Section!

I'd love to hear what has worked for you!

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