When my husband didn't pick up "my" mental and physical load, I felt like he was telling me that these tasks were beneath him. I didn't get a free night out; I only postponed the work I would have had to do anyway. As a "bonus", it's my fault because I didn't tell
In all honesty, if you want peaceful mornings (on most days), then you have to take responsibility for them. Any good coach will tell you that you can't expect greatness from your players if you don't do tough work yourself. This is what we do to survive mornings...
I realize I’m preaching to the choir, and I want to give you credit for making the effort to grow as a parent. Just the fact that you are open to “better parenting” skills speaks volumes for your commitment to personal growth. I wish all of those who are called to provide for the young felt the